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Musik » alt.music.moody-blues » Definition of Stalking, previously mentioned, UPDATED:
| Definition of Stalking, previously mentioned, UPDATED: [message #219734] |
Wed, 30 March 2005 19:43 |
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Found this interesting, since the Moody Blue Men have to put up with
the same kind of unwarranted fixations by a few fans and from the
conduct of a *few* nutters here, that is exhibited in the posts this is
timely:
11 tips to Anti Stalking Security by Robert Siciliano =A9 2004
Stalking is about domination. It is one or more persons
continually making efforts to control another person's life and
thoughts by paying unwanted attention. Stalkers become obsessive
investigators, interrogators, intimidators and terrorists. According to
current statistics, almost a million and a half people are being
stalked by an ex-boyfriend, ex-girlfriend, ex-husband, ex-wife,
estranged husband, estranged wife, secret admirer, or an ***infatuated
mentally unstable individual.***
Celebrities and everyday people are potential victims of the
stalker. Stalking is when someone contacts you when you ***repeatedly
request that they do not.*** They watch, follow, call, ***email***, fax
or continually send mail to you after you request they do not. Stalking
is psychological terror. They make you a prisoner in your own life.
They make it known that they know where you have been, whom you have
spoken to, what you have done and where you are going next. They insist
that they cannot live without you and you cannot live without them.
Here are a few things to consider.
Red Flags; signs that you are being stalked include; an obsessive
relationship that continues after the victim requests it does not,
which includes; repeated contact of you, friends, family or work,
following, threats, vandalism, dead or missing pets or an assault on
the victim.
Warning Signals; when your intuition is telling you something is wrong
immediately respond. When the red flags become obvious it might be too
late. The moment things start to go wrong respond with stated
boundaries and call it quits.
Ending a relationship; most stalkers have had some form of an emotional
relationship with the victim. When the victim requests that the
relationship must end, do it sternly and efficiently and make your
feelings known. Stringing the stalker along only gives them hope and
sends mixed signals. They will misconstrue your words and find hope in
their meaning.
Final Words; once you have ended the relationship and the stalker
continues to make contact, under no circumstances do you respond.
Emotions can eventually fade away, however, if you respond after a
month of being contacted, you give the stalker their emotional fix and
then they want more. More is never enough for the stalker.
Begging; trying to reason with, pleading and requesting the mercy of
the stalker only empowers them and gives them the feeling of being in
control of your life. Under no circumstances do you respond and
especially respond with begging, pleading or their mercy. Never try to
rationalize with irrational people.
Home Security; If their was ever a time to install an alarm it is when
you are being stalked. Make sure it is monitored by local law
enforcement and keep it on while you are home during the day and when
you sleep at night. Wireless alarms can be installed quickly and there
are no phone lines to cut.
Dogs; this is also a good time to get a vicious dog. With little
research a fully-grown Doberman, Pit-bull, German Shepard, Rotweiler or
any other dog trained to kill can be a lifesaver. There are many
outfits that will rent you a guard dog while you are in jeopardy.
Friends and Family; make sure you notify friends, family, neighbors,
co-workers and local businesses who you are a customer of and
acquainted with what your situation is and show photos of the stalker.
Your circle of relationships might be a significant factor in staying
safe.
Self Defense; knowing how to disable an attacker armed or unarmed
should be a staple of everyday living. When you are being stalked you
are essentially at war and need to understand the fundamentals of armed
and unarmed combat. Once you have the tools to debilitate another human
being, that's when you decide if carrying a weapon is appropriate.
Self Care; these are extremely emotional times. Sleep deprivation,
starvation, anxiety, and a number of physical and emotional anomalies
are side effects of being stalked. Seek professional help and maintain
as much personal balance as possible.
Documentation; experts disagree on if a restraining order is a helpful
or hurtful tool when being stalked. The introduction of a restraining
order can emotionally charge your stalker or give them the warning to
back off. Either way, a paper trail of all events and proper reporting
of each incident will serve as a back up in the event that you kill
your attacker in self-defense. Too many people serve jail time as a
result of killing their attacker in self-defense because they have not
documented their obsessed stalkers attempts at disrupting their life.
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